My wife has linked to a Mona Charen column about the terrible accident that has her 11 year old son in a coma.
Please offer a prayer up for the boy's recovery.
I too remember the funeral of which Amy speaks, but what I remember about it was a young woman playing a violin and swirling around as she did so which struck me as terribly inappropriate. But alas, people do strange things when confronted with terrible events.
I also remember another funeral of a young boy, 10 years old, who was struck by a school bus. He died and even to this day I can't even begin to imagine the grief that the parents felt then or still feel these many years later.
Again, offer up a prayer. It may seem like a simple thing, but that is a temptation--reject it and offer the prayer to God.